Despre "regulile altora" sau "manifest pentru a munci mai bine"

Spuneam eu ca n-am reguli, am inteles ca Nu se poate fara reguli si am aprofudat problema..am gasit un alt blog ce ne ofera 7 reguli pentru a intelege oamenii. M-am gandit sa postez aici, fragmentate evident, cele 7 reguli.
7 reguli critice, pentru a intelege oamenii

Abilitatile oamenilor de a fi draguti, prietenosi si interesanti produc majoritatii oamenilor conflicte, erori sociale si suparari emotionale.
Rule One: Never blame malice for what can easily be explained by conceit
Regula 1: Niciodata nu dezaproba cu rautate ce poate fe explicat simplu prin increzut.
People don’t care about you. This isn’t because people are mean or hurtful, but simply because they are mostly focused on themselves.
Oamenilor nu le pasa de tine.
Asta nu pentru ca oamenii sunt meschini sau suparati, ci simplu, pentru ca sunt in majoritate concentrati pe ei insisi.
Rule Two: Few Social Behaviors are Explicit
Regula 2: cateva comportamente sociale sunt explicite
Basically this rule means that most the intentions behind our actions are hidden. If a person is feeling depressed or angry, usually the resulting behaviors distort their true feelings. If I feel you snubbed me, I might hold my tongue but ignore you later.
La prima mana, aceasta regula inseamna ca cele mai multe intentii din spatele actiunilor noastre sunt ascunse. Daca o persoana se simte depresiva sau suparata, de obicei este rezultatul distorsionarii adevaratelor lor sentimente. Daca simt ca ma dojenesti, imi musc limba, dar altadata te ignor.
Rule Three: Behavior is Largely Dictated by Selfish Altruism
Regula 3: Comportamentul in mare parte este dictat de Altruismul Egoist
To say everyone is completely selfish is a gross exaggeration. That ignores all the acts of kindness, sacrifice and love that make the world work. But I would argue that most (not all, but most) behavior does work from the principles of selfish altruism.
A spune, toti sunt complet egoisti este o mare exagerare. Ca ignoram toate actiunile de bunatate, sacrificiu si dragoste, asta este motorasul lumii. Dar, vreau sa argumentz majoritatea(nu toate) comportamentelor care functioneaza dupa principiul altruismului egoist.
Selfish altruism is basically win/win. It is where helping you directly or indirectly helps me.
Altruismul egoist este de fapt victorie si iar victorie. Este motivatia directa sau indirecta pentru care ma ajuti.
Rule Four: People Have Poor Memories
Regula 4: Oamenii au memorie saraca (mica).
Ever been told someone’s name at a party and then forgot it later? Another rule of human behavior is that people have trouble remembering things... People are more likely to remember your similarities than your differences (unless they were emotionally incensed by them).
De cate ori nu vi s-a spus numele cuiva, la o petrecere, si apoi l-ati uitat?Alta regula a comportamentului uman este ca oamenii au probleme cu tinerea minte. Oamenilor le face mai mare placere sa-si aminteasca similaritatile decat diferentele ( doar daca nu-i eneveaza asta)..
Rule Five: Everyone is Emotional
Regula 5: Toata lumea este emotionala
Perhaps this is an exaggeration. But the core of the message is that people tend to have stronger feelings about something than they let on. People who regularly have outbursts of anger, depression or flamboyant enthusiasm are generally frowned upon in most cultures. Poate ca asta este o exagerare.Dar, miezul mesajului este ca oamenii tind sa aiba sentimente puternice despre ceva ce vor sa exprime. Oameni care de obicei au izbucniri de manie, depresii sau entuziasm colorat se evidentiaza in cele mai multe civilizatii.
Rule Six: People are Lonely Regula 6: Oamneii sunt singuri
This is another broad generalization. But it is amazing how many people who seem to have it all, suffer from bouts of loneliness. As social animals, I believe people are especially sensitive to any threats to becoming ostracized. In Neanderthal times, exile meant death, so loneliness and the desire to be with other people is a strong one.
Aceasta este o alta larga generalizare.Dar este uimitor cat de multi oameni care par a avea totul, sufera de singuratate. Ca animale sociale, cred ca oamenii au o speciala receptivitate fata de orice amenintare de ostracizare. In timpuri Neanderthaliene, exilul insemna moarte, asa ca singuratatea si dorinta de a fi cu alti oameni este una puternica.
Rule Seven: Did I Mention People Are Self-Absorbed? Regula 7: Am mentionat ca oamenii sunt absorbiti (fascinati) de ei insisi?
This may sound like a reiteration of rule one, but I believe the applications extend beyond relationships and your emotional state. The fact that people tend to be too concerned about themselves to give you much attention, that people tend to be lonelier, more emotional and feel differently than they let on applies to how you view the world.
Aceasta suna ca o reiteratie a primei regule, dar cred in aplicatia extinsa intre relatii si sentimente. Fapt este ca oamenii tind sa se concentreze pe ei insisi pentru a-ti acorda atentie, ca oamenii tind sa fie singuratici, mai mult emotiile si sentimentele lor sunt diferite de subsrierile lor la cum vezi tu lumea.

am incercat sa traduc, pentru cei ce nu stiu engleza.Nici eu nu o stapanesc prea bine, dar am increcat..

1. Be true to yourself!
2. Know yourself!
3. Love yourself!
4. Accept yourself!
5. Never react on impluse!
6. Shit happens, get over it!
7. Assume your actions!
8. Always enjoy life & the word!
9. Think, read, filter, imagine!
10.Laugh with every chance you get!

Sunt in engleza deoarece doar asa foloseam mai putine cuvinte, in romana trebuia sa ma invart de numa Plus ca mie imi suna mai la tzanc asa.

Nu stiu daca am 10 puncte, dar am cateva puncte f importante pt. mine:
1. fii optimista
2. ai incredere in tine
3. vezi partea plina a paharului
4. invata sa spui lucrurilor pe nume
5. ai curaj